Each child has their own unique gift, some will grow up to be the next Jessica Ennis, some the next Stella McCartney, some Taylor Swift, or Keira Knightly.
In each area of our children's life there will be competition, it can't be avoided. From who will play Mary or the Donkey in the Nativity Play, to who gets the most merit marks, who's in which colour group in infant school ( alas parents always know red is top). It's life. You compete when you play football for a knock around in the park, when you play a computer game, even when you attend a concert you compete for the best seats. The crux is that some people are academic, some creative, some sporty. If we dont positively encourage them, then how will they strive to positively compete for jobs, we won't as a nation produce sport winners because they won't have the edge that competiveness needs to give them to excel in whichever their chosen area is.
I believe it's how you handle any situation with children, positive reassurance! My daughter didn't win, but I shouted like an Olympians mother, she did her absolute best & pushed herself smiling as she took part. Doing her best is what counts, in the same way as academically she applies the same principles.
If I take my two daughters they are like chalk & cheese. But no matter what they do we actively encourage them to do their best, if they don't get full marks or aren't selected for a team it doesn't matter as long as they have done their best. They have no pressure from over pushy parents. Sometimes you win a few, sometimes you don't, but if you never partake in life's events then you are going to miss out on so many adventures!
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